People can suck. People hurt you. People lie. People ditch plans. People leave you disappointed, upset, and often regretful. But as I grow up, I've come to realize people's imperfections and failure to meet one's predisposed expectation are not a valid excuse to not love them.
Initially, I'd like to begin by differentiating not loving and hating. You see, not loving someone doesn't necessarily mean you hate them. In it's simplest definition, not loving someone is, well, not giving someone your love because of a specific reason (lol). This meaning you're not necessarily hating the person, you are more of just not doing anything kind for them. Makes some sense? Hopefully so! Stick with me as I jump to the other side of my brain focused on the inevitable imperfections of humanity. Us people, we know best of all how imperfect we truly are. We know that we forget certain things or people. We know we can upset others and even disappoint them. These can be worked on, meaning possibly setting up goals to work on traits we think need some improvement. But, besides the point, us humans will still never be perfect. We will always end up giving out the "suckiness" we hate getting from other humans. Ironic aye? Do our imperfect ways excuse others from having to love us? If so, wouldn't that mean no one would be loved? People's imperfections should not be a hinderance in attempting to love them. Instead these imperfect ways should be seen as opportunities to appreciate the times when people are not so sucky. For example, say you're friend makes plans with someone else. You could easily be angered by their choice to kind of exclude you, OR you could stop and think of all the great memories you have had together and dwell upon those thoughts rather than wallow in the unloving thoughts of jealously. Often, this makes your day, week, month, year, better because hate is like a poison. Once it enters your thoughts, anyone can easily be transformed into some down and out hater who cannot enjoy life because they are too busy hating every and any thing. Most people would not enjoy this sad lifestyle (especially because you'd miss out on the wonders of our world). Basically, what I'm trying to get at is people shouldn't not be loved because they occasionally make a wrong choice or do something stupid. Loving people at their worst times show the type of person you are. Being able to let go of the small things a person does to love them is a sure sign of maturity. So, when you find it easiest to not love someone, I encourage to love them even more. Overcome the difficulty of loving the rough edges of a person and you will surely reap endless rewards in your relationship with them and your overall perspective on life.
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