Red cups are back at Starbucks. Actually not the subject of this, but I felt it was too important not to share.
Its been a while since I last posted: so hopefully this makes up for that. Loving others. How do you properly love someone? Is it even possible to properly love someone? It may not be, thats okay; I'm writing about it anyways. First, you need to know if you are looking for love or to give love. The difference is when you look for love, you are loving on people so that they will love you back. Don't act like you've never done this. I'm definitely guilty of doing this. We all do it. But when you really think about it, thats not truly loving someone. Truly loving someone is something you do to give and with no expectation of getting anything back. Plain and simple, this is hard to do. As previously stated, I struggle daily with this, but through my journey of trying to truly love others I have conceived some tips to help others love! 1. Decide why you want to love the person. Why do you feel this person deserves to be loved? Use this reason to motivate you when they get difficult or when life gets difficult. You may be in a situation where you really don't want to show someone love, but if you think back o your initial reason for wanting to give them love, it should hopefully inspire you to continue showing them selfless love. 2. Understand the lovee. Everyone receives love differently. One person may see gifts as the most amazing thing ever. To love them give them a gift! Or maybe the person loves quality time! To show them you love them spend time with them! Or maybe they love physical affection, hug them even if you don't like touching! Make the love you are giving personalized for your lovee. If you're having trouble with this just ask them! Who wouldn't be willing to talk to someone about the things that make them happy? 3. Realize you are going to have to sacrifice something. It can be some money on a gift, some time you could have spent alone, but are choosing to spend with them, breaking your physical comfort zone, breaking your emotional comfort zone and saying sweet words or getting deep with them. Basically its just you giving them what they truly want no matter how uncomfortable or broke it makes you. Sacrifice is the most important part because it proves to the person you're trying to love that you really love them because you're showing that you care more about them than you do about yourself. And well, when it boils down isn't that what love really is: putting someone else's needs about your own? So, these tips may not work for everyone, but I get how hard it can be to show someone you love and appreciate them. As you can see, what I've found is it takes a combination of understanding and sacrifice to have your love received by someone. It's hard, but when you think about it they're totally worth it.
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Christopher Robin
11/1/2014 07:44:02 am
A refreshing, objective look at love! When you simplify everything, this is what life is all about :)
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