It's been over 4 month since I've written something- lots can change in 4 months. Thankfully, recently all these changes have finally manifested into wisdom. Number one lesson learned: moderation. Moderation is vital in living a healthy life. Moderating a part of your life makes it so that the one part remains just a part rather than completely taking over all that you are. And let's be honest, few would say a puzzle is complete with just one piece. So, just as puzzles, a single human is a collection of a multitude of pieces. And when all these pieces unify themselves they create the beautiful picture of you! For me, the hardest aspect to moderate turned out to be...people. I couldn't get enough of their crazy, unpredictable behaviors. No formula can 100% predict what a human will do and that intrigues my curious mind. However, too often will I put my own needs before my efforts to procure some solid understanding of people. This led to many disappointments in myself. It's like I had to trade pieces of my own puzzle to see another's. Soon enough, my puzzle was no longer the beautiful picture I once created. And quite frankly an empty puzzle would make anyone sad and empty for a long time, until they discovered that over time they can create a new picture. The first step in creating my new picture was stop giving my puzzle pieces away. To do this, one must first understand what you were hoping to get in return for the piece. My case was I wanted others to donate their pieces and fill the holes in my picture. Little did I know at the time, doing this would just ruin the picture even more. So once I began realizing the only way I could fill these holes was by going out and forming my own pieces, my picture began to develop once again. I would go spend alone time solidifying my views on certain topics relating to politics, foreign policy, philosophy, any and every thing. It was fabulous to slowly but surely see so few pieces multiple into the present picture of me. Occasionally though I would fall back into the some self-hate system, hoping someone could give me a one of their pieces to fill my pictures empty spot. It never worked. I would just end up losing another piece. These days were let downs. Eventually, these days turned into lessons and reminders of why I chose to be alone. As expected, this faulty logic led to my bitterness towards people- all they do is hurt me, they are not worth my time, I am better off alone. It was almost addictive in the sense that my bitterness towards one person fed my bitterness towards another until "I hated everyone". Now here's where moderation comes back into the story. Over the last few months I've come to see people actually help me, help me get myself a new piece. How wonderful! I can love everyone again! However, I m still encountered unhealthy "friends", Taft opened my eyes to the hatred still thriving in our world. This is when I realized things don't always have to be one extreme or the other- I don't have to hate everyone or love everyone; I can pick and chose who I let see my picture I've been creating the last 17 years. It seems like such an easy idea to grasp, but for me falling to one extreme or the other was so easy. Having exceptions and limits isn't easy when it comes to anything: drugs, alcohol, food, people, whatever you can think of. But overall, moderation is such a healthy lifestyle- it enables you to enjoy various aspects of life while maintaining your identity and sanity (puzzle). It's extremely tough at first to create a healthy balance, but you can do it!
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Rebecca Caith
8/13/2015 12:40:21 am
Thank you! Number one: there is always someone who needs to hear it; meaning if you think of a great post idea but you're second guessing posting it just it. Number two: never not be yourself. You can read all the books in the world telling you how to write exceptionally, but without your own voice your writing will never be yours.
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