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Too many weekends have gone by where I bounce house to house, event to event, people to people, and it's exhausting- not only physically, but mentally. And because of all this bouncing I miss out on the sweet serenity of alone time. Most often I try compensate for this lost alone time by staying up late which, consequently, exhausts me even more. Not this weekend though. This weekend I have scratched out my calendar and devoted majority of my time to catching up with myself.
So far I've watched one of my favorite movies: The Judge, caught up on Parks and Rec, read my favorite blog: Hello Giggles, danced around to George Ezra, read the The Atlantic, and sat on the floor thinking endless thoughts. And, to be honest, I am so content with the events and thoughts that have transpired from hanging out with myself. Here are a few reasons why I think hanging out with yourself is of mucho importance (not all may fit you to a tee and that's a-okay): 1. No no's! You get to do whatever you want! You are not held to anyone's opinions, ideas, wants, needs, times, expectations, or whatever they bring to the table. Like oh me wants to see this movie, or get whatever to eat, or listen to this song!? So does myself and I! It's great. 2. Relaxing. It's so wonderfully wonderful to stop all the hustle and bustle of life and just sit back and bask in amazement of all that is around you. No talking, no moving, no thinking, just a deep breath in and a whole lot of stress/tension/anger out. Maybe even do some yoga or some lazy couch potatoing or whatever takes some weight off your overstrained shoulders. 3. Get to explore self. When you hang out with yourself, you are no longer preoccupied with whatever else you would be doing. This allows you to focus almost completely on yourself. From this you get a better understanding of the person you are developing into: what you like, what you're good at, what you should probably work on, what you are proud of. Sometimes this can be scary though because you may uncover some negative thoughts about yourself. You know what I say to that? What a great opportunity to see your flaws and learn to love them or work on them (if you want further advice on how to do this check out my post "Love Yourself"). 4. Increases appreciation. I am definitely guilty of failing to appreciate the great things around me. What I've found is that sometimes when I am alone I can better reflect on the positive people, events, institutions, and opportunities around me. Stopping and seeing all the blessings around me often ignites a flame of joy in my soul which I hope will happen to you as well because everyone deserves pure joy like that. 5. Catch up time. You get to catch up on all your sidelined pleasures such as movies, t.v shows, books, magazines, painting, collaging, photography, sporting (?), shopping, baking, blogging, clogging, flogging, cleaning, organizing, creating weird drinks, designing experiments, learning a language (like maybe math or something), YouTube videos, nail art, playing the piccolo, knitting, or whatever floats your boat, sailor! Truly, your options are endless. 6. Reminder that you need not be dependent on people/reassurance in yourself. Hanging out with yourself is proof of how awesome you are. Like you don't necessarily need people to have fun, you can have fun on your own. But better yet, hanging out with yourself helps you see that YOU determine your own worth. So, rather than gaining self confidence from others, you get to see how perfectly capable you are of giving yourself the love, fun, and whatever else you need to enjoy life! Discovering this incredibly changes your life as it did to mine. With all this said though, it is still vital to hang out with others. Other can enhance your happiness so much with their new ideas, fun ways, interesting take on things, and it would be silly to cut them out entirely and deprive yourself the beautifulness of others! But in the midst of the craziness of life, be sure not to forget to take time out of your busy life and to hang out with yourself. You'll most definitely be surprised at your coolness. ✌️ People can suck. People hurt you. People lie. People ditch plans. People leave you disappointed, upset, and often regretful. But as I grow up, I've come to realize people's imperfections and failure to meet one's predisposed expectation are not a valid excuse to not love them.
Initially, I'd like to begin by differentiating not loving and hating. You see, not loving someone doesn't necessarily mean you hate them. In it's simplest definition, not loving someone is, well, not giving someone your love because of a specific reason (lol). This meaning you're not necessarily hating the person, you are more of just not doing anything kind for them. Makes some sense? Hopefully so! Stick with me as I jump to the other side of my brain focused on the inevitable imperfections of humanity. Us people, we know best of all how imperfect we truly are. We know that we forget certain things or people. We know we can upset others and even disappoint them. These can be worked on, meaning possibly setting up goals to work on traits we think need some improvement. But, besides the point, us humans will still never be perfect. We will always end up giving out the "suckiness" we hate getting from other humans. Ironic aye? Do our imperfect ways excuse others from having to love us? If so, wouldn't that mean no one would be loved? People's imperfections should not be a hinderance in attempting to love them. Instead these imperfect ways should be seen as opportunities to appreciate the times when people are not so sucky. For example, say you're friend makes plans with someone else. You could easily be angered by their choice to kind of exclude you, OR you could stop and think of all the great memories you have had together and dwell upon those thoughts rather than wallow in the unloving thoughts of jealously. Often, this makes your day, week, month, year, better because hate is like a poison. Once it enters your thoughts, anyone can easily be transformed into some down and out hater who cannot enjoy life because they are too busy hating every and any thing. Most people would not enjoy this sad lifestyle (especially because you'd miss out on the wonders of our world). Basically, what I'm trying to get at is people shouldn't not be loved because they occasionally make a wrong choice or do something stupid. Loving people at their worst times show the type of person you are. Being able to let go of the small things a person does to love them is a sure sign of maturity. So, when you find it easiest to not love someone, I encourage to love them even more. Overcome the difficulty of loving the rough edges of a person and you will surely reap endless rewards in your relationship with them and your overall perspective on life. Loving yourself is like having a garden. Each flower planted in the soil represents all the love you are getting and giving other people and yourself. When you don't love a part of yourself a weed grows. If not taken care of, the weed will absorb all the nutrition from the other flowers. Soon enough, weeds, similar to self-hatred, expand, fueling themselves with more of the nutrition that could be given to the growing, beautiful flowers. And, as expected, this leads to the flowers' deaths. In failing to love yourself, the beauty around you dies.
For a long time I was confused about loving yourself. I thought it was selfish. Loving yourself? How prideful. Oh how utterly wrong young Rebecca was. You see, in loving yourself you doing the exact opposite of being selfish. Loving yourself enables you to take yourself out of the situation, meaning you are not looking to get love from someone else. When you stop looking for something in return, love, you stop being disappointed and start seeing more blessings. After stumbling upon this realization, I have found myself to be much more thankful for those around me because I'm not disappointed when someone can't give me the love I should have been giving myself. Occasionally I will pause and reflect on how absolutely blessed I am. And in these moments I feel the sort of fullness and joy that many of us hope one day to find. Of course, though, nearly all good things are hard to accomplish. Some days are easier to love yourself than others. That's life though: good and bad days strung together making your life what it is. As someone who lived in self-hate for far too many years, trust me when I say this, the hardness of loving yourself daily is worth the joy and freedom you get from it. Whether you need to wake up every morning and whisper to yourself "It's okay to yourself. I deserve my own love", ask a friend to keep you accountable for loving yourself, or keep a blog and make a post about loving yourself, do it. Do it for yourself because you deserve to feel the fullness of something no one/thing can give you, your own love. The past couple of days have been extremely difficult for me- one of my childhood friends passed away from a freak brain aneurysm. Last night was the celebration service, so funeral. It was a beautiful service for a beautiful girl. However, the suddenness and sadness of the situation hit me super hard while at the service. Then on top of that, there I had to face old friends full of past regrets and memories that I had been trying for three long years to move on from and just forget. I got sick. After doing 7 new things, I ended up catching the flu. Hurray. Given my illness, I just squandered my time on a couch in darkness or with my face inside a toilet for three full days. Day four was my mom's birthday in which I did whatever pleased her, so nothing new. Day five, I returned to school and dealt with that ew. I bought a clock kit that night and began working on that. The directions are all in Japanese. Day six we had a surprise party for my mom's birthday and that lasted from my getting the cake at 10:30 am to the last person leaving my house at 9:07 pm. Day seven consisted of my father's birthday (Both parents birthday in one week, weird). I spent time with him, but he likes his alone time. So when he wanted alone time (which I was happy to give him), I ventured with a couple friends to someone's house. It was beautiful. There was an ice rink surrounded by a gorgeous woodsy landscape and picturesque lights strung. Day eight (today) was poetry club and whatever else my newly begun night has in store.
I enjoy learning to enjoy life more. The biggest thing I've been working on is not letting the little things overtake my mind. I am trying to focus less on the small mistakes so easily dwelled on, but rather see the enjoyable big picture. In the moment letting go is hard, but overall letting go has done me wonders. Lately, I haven't been enjoying life. I've been wallowing, complaining, being a bad friend, and pretty much letting a few small mishaps cloud the sun's attempt to shine joy in my life. Since I do not particularly enjoy this lifestyle, I have decided to make a change. As an effort to enjoy life more in 2015 I will attempt to do 2,015 never-before-done-by-Rebecca-things. The only rule is that the given activity can not have already been done by me (obviously). Why am I telling you this? I tell you this as one a possible encouragement letting you know if you see something wrong in your life you have the ability to immediately change it, and two as an accountability. I know that in a few weeks or even days something petty will happen and I'll attempt to erase all memory of this project, so to assist in accountability, I will try my very best to post weekly updates about the random activities or places I get myself into. And hey, if you want to accompany me in this trek, please do! Maybe not as intense or possibly more intense, whatever your variation be it'd still be great to have a fellow fixer soldier in the battle to enjoy life! What differentiates an escape and running away? Are they in fact not so different at all? In general terms, both are just two ways to face tiring problems; however, the difference lies in the intentions commonly associated with each word.
Intentions of Escape: "I need an escape from_____". Typically thought of as a noun rather than verb; therefore, it indicates a person, place, or thing which will provide a different feel than what you are presently experiencing. Since it is not the action itself, escape's incorporation describes something physically you are hoping to reach to find possible understanding or just a moment to finally breathe. Thus, an escape typically intends to supply you what you think or feel you are missing by finding it in something that is a real object (person, place or thing). An escape also frequently indicates your return at some point. It seems that most people who talk of their need for an escape find what they were looking for and then return to their life. Whether it be a long journey to discover oneself or a few drinks (poor escape choice), the escaper will often come back after the journey or put the bottle down. Upon returning to reality, people will often take the strength, courage, or whatever rejuvenation they found in their escape and use that to continue to face their problem head on. Intentions of Running Away: "I am running away from ______". In this example, running away is the verb or action being taken. Not quite as relevant to the above explanation, the verb does indicate it is the actual action you are taking, not some place/person/thing you are hoping to find. Because of this, running away can often be seen synonymous for avoiding. If you are running away form something, you probably do not have a goal in your head besides possibly "I need to get away from *insert whatever is irritating me*". Most people intend to get away not necessarily come back because they want to avoid the problem instead of facing it. Frequently, the runners do not come back as they would rather avoid the problem entirely. This is not necessarily bad; some problems are not worth your time and effort and should be ran away from as en attempt to prevent further problems from arising. Comparison: Some situations should be treated with an escape, some should definitely be ran away from. In the end it is for you to decide whether or not you want to take a small break and then continue attempting to fix/solve whatever prompted the need for an escape, or if you will run away and avoid the thing entirely. As always I end on an ambiguous note, but there is no single answer. Different situations and different people cause different things to happen and thus require different actions to be taken. Hopefully, this helps you better see two choices available when you need a break from any problems that may arise in your life. I am happy. Despite my constant displeasure in humanity, pessimistic tendencies, extreme moods swings, frequent vocalization of my complaints, I am happy. Ultimately, I perceive the world in a negative way for no other reason than it has shown me time and time again it's eventual dark end. But my ultimate uneasiness towards the idea of an optimistic world fails to prevent me from experiencing the world's small, but fading light. It's confusing, difficult, and tiresome to live in this battling soul or live with a wavering soldier. I could tell you all the pain is worth the gain, but in all honesty, I'm daily discovering the overall worth. However, I do know that I am happy even though life brings me down sometimes. The world is full of people who have been in my same place. So, if you are one of us strange paradoxes, it's okay. If you don't like someone one day and love them the next, it's okay. If you can't stand the world one day, but enjoy it all other days, it's okay. If you obsess over social media for a month and think it's stupid the next, it's okay. People are collections of ideas and perceptions which at anytime, by any means can be altered. So one day you may think someone is the worst person you know, until it's two in the morning and you are sharing your life with them and see how understanding they actually are. For the only constant about life is life is not constant. It's so confusing, but that's why I am happy and I thought I'd share it with you because people should know current mood swings, rough sleepless thought-filled nights, lonely afternoons, or the occasionally frequent pity party, are a part of life. And just because you're sad for a bit doesn't mean you are doomed to live a sad life. It's obvious for you and me that words most often mean something: Your favorite color, your favorite drink, your favorite thoughts that you do think. But when really listen close you come to realize that all these words a person says are merely a disguise. Masking a face with lots of words hides the thoughts a mind wishes it unheard. Dressing up in pointless stories to bury deeper the thoughts before me. The more and more and more I speak, the deeper deeper deeper my thoughts do sink, Dreaming of the one day when the oceans will carry them away. But until the day comes I'll be dressed in my disguise, constructed from numerous, worthless, wordy lies. Many of you won't read this, I'll honestly be surprised if one person can get through the entire thing. I don't know how to articulate my thoughts well, so bare with me. Let's go. 1. What's makes one person like another person? Is it humor because you can find humor in others. Is it kindness because I guarantee other people are nice to you too. So what makes that one person overpower all the rest and retain "relationship status" with you? 2. I like the quote that says with knowledge of the world comes inevitable saddeness. 3. Is knowledge something sought out or stumbled upon? I see it kind of as both. Like most of the time I will be seeking one type of knowledge and stumble upon another. 4. People often overlook this, but everything a person does has purpose. When the go to the bathroom says something about them; what size drink they get; the music they listen to depending on the time of day and amount of people around them; their clothing and shoe options; their profile pictures, the size of their eyes when subjects arise; the drinks they drink; the amount of steps they take per sidewalk square; their favorite movie, book, disney Princess, song; etc. Everything a person does is important and says a lot about them. Don't let the little things people say and do pass you by because, most of the time, they say lots about a person. 5. Just because everyone else thinks an action someone done is bad doesn't mean you have too as well. For example, someone maybe super snarky and rude. You can either say that's so rude; they are being so mean, or laugh at it and realize that they are comfortable enough to be mean around you and expect it not to hurt your feelings. Like wow, that's a strong relationship. 6. I could die tomorrow. You could die tonight. Say what's on your mind while you have the chance. 7. There is more to life than what it seems. There are always other options to things, some are just harder to find. But the hardest ones are often the most rewarding. 8. No one can love a mind they don't know: open up. Also with this, ask other people what they are thinking; they may surprise you. 9. Always Think. A blank mind is a wasted one. 10. I am wrong 99% of the time and that has made more knowledgeable than the 1% I am right. 11. Writing a book would be so cool, if only I wasn't so lazy! 12. There will always be at least one person who doesn't agree with what you're saying, so make sure you always truly believe in what you're doing so that you will always at least have one person on your side. 13. Life is ambiguous. Explore it's ambiguity. You will most often find something EGGSCITING. 14. Gosh, I just really love egg puns. 15. This turned into some Rebecca philosophy post. There is my inner INTP coming out. (Of course I had to mention my new obsession #mbti) 16. I'm pretty sure 83% of the words I use are percieved incorrectly because of my extremely strange connotation of words. 17. I think people "fall in love" with people who are already in love with something else. For example, a girl sees a boy fully devoted to writing and loves the way in which he loves the pen. She kind of wants the love he is giving to writing. To see something being loved, allows for a person to see how they could be loved. Maybe I'm wrong! Comment your thoughts! (Not thots) 18. How does one emotion/empathy? 19. Is it wrong to be angry at people for not acting how you want them to be, even though you just want them to be themselves? Yes, of course they could not be using their full potential so you try and motivate them. 20. Final thought: let curiosity grow. water it with questions and place it out in the open for the world to harvest. Did this make any sense? Sound kind of accusatory? Because that's not my intention at all and it may sound that way just because I often have trouble communicating my own thoughts primarily because I don't understand them enough to easily convey them to others. Hope you enjoyed your short trip to my mind. Come back anytime. Listening is kind of like a snowball. The more you do it the bigger you get, packed full of information. Occasionally you will pick up a few sticks, roll in a pile of waste, even hit a rock. But, if you persevere and keep rolling you will grow -grow in knowledge. From this growing knowledge you are able to elevate yourself higher and even possibly put more snowballs atop yourself. Doing this excels your intellectualness which, in most cases, enhances your ability to understand the sticky situations life rolls about. Understanding these situations elevates you and enables you to place more snowballs atop yourself, which transform you into a wonderful knowledgeable snow(wo)man. Makes sense? Kind of...maybe...? Basically, what I have found is the more you listen the more you learn and the more you learn the more understanding you are which equips you to handle life better. So listen, even if you have to hear things you may not want to hear. Because, although it may hurt in the moment, the pain will ultimately melt away and leave you a wiser, more elevated person (well of course depending on how you react to the situation).
Also, listening deepens your relationships. Imagine you are digging a whole. Listening is the shovel. Each funny story, heroic tale, prolonged tragedy, and the occasional boring epic you open your ears to strikes the shovel into the person. The more you listen, the more you learn. In this case you are specifically deepening your knowledge on a certain loved one. Knowing someone you care about helps you in all aspects of life. It enlightens you on yourself because you are choosing to spend your time with this type of person. And who you spend your time with says oodles about yourself. Purposeful listening that deepens your knowledge of a person also reveals to them how much you care about them. Simply asking a person about something they mentioned in passing means a lot. Think about a time when someone did this for you: They brought up a small detail. You felt ecstatic, right?! Like wow, I matter! It's the best. So why not open your ears and help someone feel super great and wanted? Confidence is not balancing a scale: you boosting someone's confidence will not decrease your own. Back to the original idea of how this deepens your relationship. Well, when you make someone feel wanted/just good about themselves they are more prone to open up to you because they feel you are a safe environment and will not judge their ideas/perception of the world. When someone is able to share how they truly perceive the world with you, you reach a whole new level in relationships. Its like you are digging deep enough to enter the innermost caverns of their soul. People have really cool souls; I highly recommend digging to all the souls you can. In simple terms, listening helps you learn. Listening helps you learn about the world. Listening helps you learn about others. Listening, even, helps you learn about yourself. And learning is beautiful way to light our dark world. My love;
You are ground in a multitude of unconventional perceptions, Full of an inconceivable, endless darkness. Most see you as too bitter, too dark, too strong, too much for them to even begin to wrap their simple minds. And because of this people will try to sweeten you up, Even attempt to cleanse your soul Coating it with milk-white ideas. But I- I love you nonetheless. 'Cause I see your thoughts as a gateway towards stimulating my wandering soul. I see your enlightening darkness as a pathway to the truth. I even see your mind boggling complexity As a tool to cultivate fruitful questions, I oh so love to harvest within my mind. For no mourning would be the same without your bitterly warm kiss on my freshly awoken lips. We all have those friends that we can see everyday, spend countless hours with, and still be unaware of what's happening in their life. This is not entirely bad. Sometimes it's nice to not talk about things, live in the moment you know? Sometimes it's just nice to escape life when you're with friends. But with this comes the certain obscurity that you can be best friends with someone and not really know them?
This thought recently entered my brain surprisingly not because of something going on in my life, but the fact that I didn't know what a close friend of mine wanted to do in college. My mom actually was the one who asked me what the said friend wanted to do. To her and my astonishment, I was unaware of what they wanted to do. In the moment I was a bit concerned because I spend so much time with them, but had no idea how they wanted to spend the rest of their life! So after stumbling upon this realization, I-as always-began analyzing the other friendships I participate in to see if this "trend" would reveal itself elsewhere. The others I analyzed had a similar outcome; I didn't really know them on a below surface level. Perhaps I'm the only one who noticed this or does this. Perhaps I'm not... Of course, I would never stop at just noting a peculiarity; I began to question why this happens. Is it a matter of us getting too caught up in ourselves to notice the lives of those close to us( the lives of others can enhance your own life)? Is it the fast paced life many of us struggle through that lessens our knowledge of others(you can always make time for those who really matter)? Is it fear of rejection upon posing a personal question to your friend(if they asked you a personal question wouldn't you respond, why wouldn't they)? Is it laziness, where we don't want to put the effort to get involved in peoples' lives who are close to us(they're totally worth the extra effort)? No one asks me, why would I ask them (maybe they're thinking the same thing)? The ambiguous answer is "it really depends on your personal relationship with the person". Love ambiguity (not really). So after failing to find a specific reason why, I decided instead of trying to figure out why this happens maybe I should just stop it from happening and start inquiring more about my friends' lives. So if you're in the same boat with me and realized you can't name your close friends' favorite book or poem, how they like there coffee, if they even like coffee, what their favorite hobby is and why, their best and worst childhood memory, or any other interest they are pursuing, I strongly suggest you inquire. I did and I have found people are cool and people you choose to spend lots of time with are even cooler. So be the first to initiate a deeper friendship. Be the first to ask them out of the blue what they're thinking, what they want to be, what they value most in life, what the meaning of life is to to them. It will mean the world to them just like it would mean the world to you. Like I said before, these people you are choosing to spend time with are super interesting and getting to truly know them makes life a whole lot better. :) Feel free to email me at [email protected] to talk about your life! Red cups are back at Starbucks. Actually not the subject of this, but I felt it was too important not to share.
Its been a while since I last posted: so hopefully this makes up for that. Loving others. How do you properly love someone? Is it even possible to properly love someone? It may not be, thats okay; I'm writing about it anyways. First, you need to know if you are looking for love or to give love. The difference is when you look for love, you are loving on people so that they will love you back. Don't act like you've never done this. I'm definitely guilty of doing this. We all do it. But when you really think about it, thats not truly loving someone. Truly loving someone is something you do to give and with no expectation of getting anything back. Plain and simple, this is hard to do. As previously stated, I struggle daily with this, but through my journey of trying to truly love others I have conceived some tips to help others love! 1. Decide why you want to love the person. Why do you feel this person deserves to be loved? Use this reason to motivate you when they get difficult or when life gets difficult. You may be in a situation where you really don't want to show someone love, but if you think back o your initial reason for wanting to give them love, it should hopefully inspire you to continue showing them selfless love. 2. Understand the lovee. Everyone receives love differently. One person may see gifts as the most amazing thing ever. To love them give them a gift! Or maybe the person loves quality time! To show them you love them spend time with them! Or maybe they love physical affection, hug them even if you don't like touching! Make the love you are giving personalized for your lovee. If you're having trouble with this just ask them! Who wouldn't be willing to talk to someone about the things that make them happy? 3. Realize you are going to have to sacrifice something. It can be some money on a gift, some time you could have spent alone, but are choosing to spend with them, breaking your physical comfort zone, breaking your emotional comfort zone and saying sweet words or getting deep with them. Basically its just you giving them what they truly want no matter how uncomfortable or broke it makes you. Sacrifice is the most important part because it proves to the person you're trying to love that you really love them because you're showing that you care more about them than you do about yourself. And well, when it boils down isn't that what love really is: putting someone else's needs about your own? So, these tips may not work for everyone, but I get how hard it can be to show someone you love and appreciate them. As you can see, what I've found is it takes a combination of understanding and sacrifice to have your love received by someone. It's hard, but when you think about it they're totally worth it. Sometimes life makes you feel like you’re less than dirt. Not getting asked to a dance; not liking what you see in the mirror; not getting invited to something; not getting a billion likes on your picture; not getting the grade you wanted on a test; not doing well in your sport; not making a play; these all scream NOT,
I am NOT… pretty enough. nice enough smart enough athletic enough creative enough different enough happy enough mysterious enough fun enough good enough. I am here to enlighten you on the cold-hard truth. You may not want to hear; hey, you may not even believe it. But let me tell you, everything I'm saying is the actual factual truth and I whole heartedly believe it. You are enough. You are more than one bad day. You are more than the mirror, a test score, a game score, a dance ask, a significant other, an invitation, a part in a play, likes on a picture, a piece of art. You are more than the labels you give yourself: stupid, ugly, etc. You are more than your past. You are more than your mistakes. You are more than your imperfections. You are more than your false perceptions of yourself. You are enough. You are wanted. You are loved. And most of all you are the best you there is or ever will be. Don't let the lies we so often believe alter your perception of yourself. Because days will be rough. You may cry some tears, let out some screams, make some poor choices, but this does not determine your worth. You deserve love not only from others, but from yourself. Never forget how priceless and one of a kind you truly are. So, smile because I love seeing you as happy as you deserve to be!!! Every day millions of people pass through life full of sorrow and unhappiness. However, there are a select few who experience life's bliss with a jolly smile plastered upon their enlightened face. What makes these people different? What is the key to experiencing this bliss?
Over my not-so-many years of life, I have come to the conclusion that there is one easy step in achieving a state of happiness: count your blessings! Big blessing, teeny-tiny blessings, seemingly insignificant blessings, they all help water the seed of happiness planted in each and everyone of us. Just like a plant, when our seed of happiness doesn't get any water-blessings-our plant will eventually die. Then, the dead plants fumes infiltrates our thoughts and attitudes and make it more even more difficult for us to recognize blessings. By being unable to recognize our blessings, our plant remains in its dead state which refuels the never-ending cycle of sorrow. Being stuck in the sorrow-cyle truly sucks. Since most of us have been experiencing a blessing drought for quite sometime, we understand the feelings of loneliness and worthiness associated with it. No one wants to feel that way. So why not just water your seed with blessings? Well, it's much harder than it seems. Thankfully though, hard doesn't mean impossible. With that said, here are some of my tips to help count your blessings and in return provide you with some much needed happiness. 1. Anything is a blessing: Like a I said before, count big blessings, small ones, ones that may have been accidental. Your parents told you to have a great day at school? Wow that was so nice, she definitely did not have to do that: I feel blessed. You only got one problem wrong on your math test? HECK YES! Killed that, so blessed for doing well! Oh hey, you are reading this on some technological device that you are able to use? So thankful for the accessibility to the internet. 2. Be a blessing: Help someone else out and give them something to be thankful for! Send out encouraging texts, bake some treats for friends, pay for a stranger, let someone know you are thankful for them, do you siblings chores, tell your parents you something you love about them, tell your friends something you love about them, tell the Starbucks barista something you love about them! Not only will you be helping them, but you will also feel great for doing good! 3. Don't sweat the small stuff: You've probably heard this saying many times before, but really don't let little things ruin your day. For every one thing that goes wrong I bet all my money that there is at least one good thing to come from it. Sometimes it feels like there is no possible way it could be good, but if you really look for a positive you can find it. Its just some bad stuff is just harder to find the good in than others. 4. Keep a documented collection of your blessings: WRITE YOUR BLESSINGS DOWN! Keep them on a note page in your phone, in a jar next to your bed, in a notebook, paint pictures of them, anything! Just keep note of them so when life gets tough you can look back on previous blessings and find inspiration. Not only will you be reminded you are/have been blessed, it will also help you realize you may have missed recognizing some blessings today. 5. Live life: Take chances, do crazy unexpected things, and never skip out on an opportunity to partea with a bunch of friends. Organize game nights and dinner parties, and movie nights, and bonfires, and (if you're in school) study nights, and craft parties, and brunches, and sleepovers, and candle making ventures, and forest walks, and book clubs, and film clubs, and, of course, tea parteas. These are only a few of the multitude of things you can do to truly experience life which creates relationships and memories you can be thankful for! So the next time you're in a sadness rut, end the blessings drought and water your happy seed with some eggscellent blessings. I love meeting new people.
I love hearing about their thoughts and exploring their ideas. I love listening to people express apperciation towards certain things.. I love the underestimated people who are geniuses. I love the philosophical thinkers who can shut off their mind. I love the questioners, who know nothing is ever set in stone. I love the sassy people who make me laugh all the time. I love the athletes who know strategy and time management skills. I love the try-hards who put %110 in everything they do. I love the partiers who know how to live in the moment. I love the upset people who are just wanting to be smiled at. I love the talkers who never shut the hell up and rarely make sense. I love the quiet people who never speak the hell up, but actually have really great thoughts on things. I love the loser who need a friend because I want to be the friend they need. I love the actor and actresses who are devoted to their art. I love the artists who can spend hours on a piece just to throw it away because one small, unnoticeable, imperfection. I love the leaders who seek every chance to guide people in what they believe is the right idea. I love the initiators who feel no shame in asking how you are, if you want to hang out. Boy do they make you feel loved. I love the comforters who don't always know what's up, but are always willing to be there. I love the harsh people who give you a taste of the real world. I love the mature people who bring enlightenment to the table. I love immature people who bring innocent fun to the table. I love the student who sees every moment as an opportunity to learn. I really just love being able to see life differently through a lense different people. English assignment to write a six word memoir about myself. Only rule is that there has to be six words. Go.
Fascinated by others, intrigued by differences. Writer by day, baker by night. I laugh more than I should. Lost in sight, child of the night. work in progress, far from completion. Running to the afternoon tea time. Count by 5. There's my birthday. I use mouthwash. Sometimes I floss My dog is possessed by satan. More than you think I am. Finding joy in odd imperfect things. Magnify a person's strength, not weakness. Crayons don't have an age limit. Fuzzy socks, Cuppa tea, me happy. Life is what you make it. Smile a day, keeps sadness away. You are wonderfully amazing, don't forget. So many reasons to be happy. |
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